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Stepmom Bashed for Telling Teen She’s ‘Lucky’ to be Treated Equal

Woman and teenage stepdaughter argue on couch

A mother of two was slammed online after revealing she thinks her 18-year-old stepdaughter is a burden to her and her family.

The OP, known as u/Jearshsbd, posted about the situation in Reddit‘s popular “Am I The A******” forum where it received more than 8,500 upvotes and 1,400 comments. The post can be found here.

With over 50 percent of American children living in a home with a nonbiological parent, it is important for parents to understand the complex relationship between them and a stepchild.

According to Trevor Crow, LMFT, EFT, the couple is responsible for communicating about their family dynamics without involving the kids.

An anonymous woman was criticized online after revealing that she thinks her stepdaughter is a “burden.”
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“First of all, our value systems, the way we run our lives, our financial agreements start with the couple,” Crow told Newsweek. “It needs to start with the couple in agreement on what are we doing and what does that look like.”

Crow said parents often put their children first in these situations and begin to lack communication with their significant other or co-parent.

“We make the family about the kids and not the couple. When you make it all about the kids, it stops being stable,” Crow said. “Even if you’re divorced you need to be in a team and kids are not making decisions.”

‘AITA?’

In the post titled “AITA for telling my stepdaughter she’s lucky I treat her as my own?” the 44-year-old OP said she and her husband have a son, 2, and a daughter, 3.

She said her stepdaughter Emily, 18, moved in with them six months ago after her mother kicked her out for being “too problematic.”

“Since her moving in, I’ve been very welcoming and I’ve spent more than enough money to help Emily get on her feet,” the post read. “We told her that she could live here as long as she needed, but since her moving here she’s become a burden to both my children and I.”

The OP said that she and her family are used to a morning routine that has now been altered due to her stepdaughter moving in.

“My stepdaughter has become a burden,” the post read. “She has become entitled and whenever she needs anything financially she will ask either myself or my husband.”

The woman said she has provided her stepdaughter with many basic necessities such as clothes, shoes, beauty products, underwear and a work uniform—adding that her stepdaughter quit her job after three weeks.

“She has taken most of my savings, taken the time from my children to…

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